We live in a country where rape culture is normal.
What is rape culture?
Rape culture in Bangladesh is divided into 4 steps.
3. Removal of Autonomy
4. Extreme Violance
Normalization is the 1st step where people casually joke about rape, unequal household works, stalking someone in the name of love, say statements like “orna koi?”, ” women are weak”, “Ami naribadi der pochondo korina”, “chele manush emoni”, promote lockerroom talk etc.
When people get used to the normalization of casual sexim then comes the next step which is degradation.
Degradation is using words or action to disrespect or to insult and putting down an individual.
For example: victim blaming, slut shaming, wolf whistling, public masturbation etc.
Third step is removal of atonomy which means putting an individual in such a position where they will be incapable of exercising their own rights.
Suppose: child marriage, groping, blackmailing with nudes, forced arrange marriage etc
Atlast comes the extreme violence which are rape, molestation, femicide.
A person can commit to extreme violence even if that person is in primary stage. So it is better for us stop this whole thing for good right before when it starts.
How can we stop?
Well the change won’t come in a day.
That is why the first and foremost duty of us will be educating people.
1. We learn our basics from our family. So our family need to practice of raising kids with moral values and ethics.
2. Sex education is needed in schools and colleges to make our future kids understand what consent is.
3. Stop victim blaming.
4. STOP BLAMING THE DRESS.
5. Stop portraying women as a weaker being.
6. Stop slut shaming.
7. Stop toxic masculinity.
8. Mass awareness.
We are in this together.
If we don’t raise our voice from now on we can never change the patriarchy.
My skin is not consent
My cleavage is not consent
My miniskirt is not consent
My sleeves are not consent
Being alone is not consent
Being a bad teen is not consent
Being outgoing is not consent
Having guy friends is not consent
A NO IS NO
A NO CAN NEVER BE YES!
RAISE YOUR VOICE FOR GOOD!
Author: Parisa Faiza, Student, Department of Architecture, BRAC University
Co-author: Md. Zishan Mahmud, Advocate, Supreme Court of Bangladesh